A recent GQ trend piece explored the phenomenon of “straight” masturbation clubs, and I’ve seen online ads for such clubs that specifically target “straight” guys and more or less rebuke gay ones. Or maybe connectivity has made this phenomenon more accessible and easier to gauge and discuss? Ya never know with these things. It does seem like more straight-identified guys are getting into mutual masturbation with other so-called straight guys these days. (We’re both straight couples.) When we were several in, we were talking about losing our virginities, and his friend’s fiancée made a comment along the lines of “well, you know what they used to do.” I did not know what they used to do! It turns out they masturbated together as teenagers, which included “giving each other a hand.” I was taken aback by this, but they all seemed to think it was hilarious, and my husband was embarrassed, so I shrugged it off. Last year, my husband of two years-together six-and I were out to drinks with his childhood friend and the friend’s fiancée. Send your questions for Stoya and Rich to. How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. I Have a Desire My Husband Can Never Fulfill-So I’ve Found 10 Other Men So Far Who Can My Husband Giggles Every Time I Try My Fantasy Move in Bed
